Communication Gap

Scientist has discovered that since the first human appeared, much effort was given for means of communication, like the murals in the caves. Just to depict how they have lived their lives. Some even were featured on how they made death sacred. In fact in the Bible, there is a story of once a universal language that was halted. Communication has evolved over the centuries, through writing, speech, and art, just to convey what goes in the minds of individuals. And just over the course of history, we have learned that communication can not just mend, but even break things. Yes, break things.

That is quite a shock, considering that most experts insist that communication is one of the vital key in a relationship. You know, keep it open between partners, etc. I do apologize, but the more I think about it the funnier it seems. Like I said before, my grandparent’s relationship is ideal for me, though I wasn’t born then. Why not my parent’s? Well, there was too much communication between my parents. In fact there was just too much, it hurt both of them. And I guess the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree. I myself had relationships before and I’m in one now. And the more I talk, the more I seem to hurt my partner. In fact when I am really angry, I can also hurt my dad, my mom, my sister, my brother…etc. And boy do they know my thoughts; they hear me quite well too.

When I was a kid, I guess people considered that my parents and I had a communication gap. I didn’t talk much. A lot of things were happening in my head, I’d run out of words just by talking about them. So I normally hide in my room and draw. Yeah, and can you believe it, I’m the only one in this entire family who can draw. Now imagine that, not only can’t I communicate well to any of them, no one could understand why I draw too much either. It’s not that communication didn’t improve when I got older. I can speak my mind out quite clearly, if I have to. In fact, now, there are all kinds of ways to communicate; calls, texts, emails, there is also shouting, screaming, and banging you head on the wall (just kidding). And still there is this, communication gap. It’s just now that too much of one thing is less.

The stories I hear about my grandparent’s are complete opposites to this 21st century communication breakthrough. When they had problems, they simply stopped talking and do what they had to do as father and mother to their kids. Grandfather would sit by the porch tell ghost stories to his kids while waiting for night fall. And Grandmother would make dinner. By the end of the day, they’d fall in love with each other again. And they had 7 kids, mind you, seven! Back then, they didn’t have computers, or cell phones, or even phones for that matter. Much more therapists and marriage counselors. And they had it better.

So, that’s what I tried. It’s harder too. But I tried keeping quiet, for change. And watch the day end. And then I realize, I’m falling in love again.