Throughout the internet, the library or any bookstore you go to, or even over the radio, there is always a corner for The Love Expert. I can’t recall the exact time that all these started. But over the past century, there have been more and more people, who seem to be experts of relationships, of tales of the heart… of love. In fact on the internet alone, just by typing success in marriage, I get over 73 million results! Now if there were the same number of pairs who have been successful in their relationships, shouldn’t we have gotten rid of all these war ages ago?
They talk about what love is, how love is, what we ought to do, what we ought not to do. They talk about lots of things, be it honesty, humility, communication. Take me for example, I can go a day or even 2 without talking to anyone, and I’m fine with that. How do you think they should remedy that? Should I start being talkative then? And deny what defines me as who I am? And what about people who can’t seem to stop talking just about anything under the sun, should they pretend that they can listen more? Don’t they still continue talking in their minds, anyway? And what about sex, be it in any other name, it seems to be one of the top to do things nowadays. So how do they remedy those people who just love to do it ever so often and those who just… well… don’t?
I have nothing against these people. And I’m not bitter either. No, really, I’m not. But don’t you think we are generalizing all relationships and over analyzing things too much, these days? I consider my grandparent’s relationship ideal, and they didn’t have any of these before. They didn’t have the internet or therapists then. They didn’t have the 3 Pillars of Marriage or the 7, 12, 30 Keys of successful marriage. In fact, I don’t think they even had Viagra that time. And they turned out fine, their kids turned out fine. I’m here, aren’t I?
I’m not saying not to seek help if needed. But why seek help if it’s not needed? There are times that we think there should be a standard on how relationships should run. But with that many result over the internet is proof enough, one relationship is different from another. And so would be our ideas and opinion of it and about it. And insisting that a relationship is one thing when its not, is simply trouble.
Even if you read all those 73 million results and more, it still boils down to being who you are and accepting who you are and who your partner is. No more, no less. As much as we are different individuals, so are our relationships with our partners. And who would know better than we who are in it. No one can tell you, you can do better, if you already are successful in your relationships in your own way. No one else can be experts of your relationship than you and your partner.
They talk about what love is, how love is, what we ought to do, what we ought not to do. They talk about lots of things, be it honesty, humility, communication. Take me for example, I can go a day or even 2 without talking to anyone, and I’m fine with that. How do you think they should remedy that? Should I start being talkative then? And deny what defines me as who I am? And what about people who can’t seem to stop talking just about anything under the sun, should they pretend that they can listen more? Don’t they still continue talking in their minds, anyway? And what about sex, be it in any other name, it seems to be one of the top to do things nowadays. So how do they remedy those people who just love to do it ever so often and those who just… well… don’t?
I have nothing against these people. And I’m not bitter either. No, really, I’m not. But don’t you think we are generalizing all relationships and over analyzing things too much, these days? I consider my grandparent’s relationship ideal, and they didn’t have any of these before. They didn’t have the internet or therapists then. They didn’t have the 3 Pillars of Marriage or the 7, 12, 30 Keys of successful marriage. In fact, I don’t think they even had Viagra that time. And they turned out fine, their kids turned out fine. I’m here, aren’t I?
I’m not saying not to seek help if needed. But why seek help if it’s not needed? There are times that we think there should be a standard on how relationships should run. But with that many result over the internet is proof enough, one relationship is different from another. And so would be our ideas and opinion of it and about it. And insisting that a relationship is one thing when its not, is simply trouble.
Even if you read all those 73 million results and more, it still boils down to being who you are and accepting who you are and who your partner is. No more, no less. As much as we are different individuals, so are our relationships with our partners. And who would know better than we who are in it. No one can tell you, you can do better, if you already are successful in your relationships in your own way. No one else can be experts of your relationship than you and your partner.
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