Do you or have you ever thought that your marriage with your partner might come to an end? In a house where couples are not happy living together anymore, and the fighting between them gets worse everyday, couples opt to separate. When we say separate, we mean couples break apart, and does not live together. As a Christian, we value to “living-together” of the couples, even if they seem not to co-exist anymore. They separate only in words because we value what the church thought us, what the Holy Spirit and church principles that we learned.
When couples separate, that does not mean both of them planned this. Especially those couples who has their children involved. They worry the impact their fighting would be to their children and thus agreed to separate instead of talking it over and make way to arranged it correctly. Couples who did separate in the spur of the moment didn’t think about counseling, what are their guidelines in seeing each other, or is there any timeline of separation.
Many believe that separation is one of the best way to save a marriage. If you are a real Christian, you should not embrace this principle. Because Christians are God-fearing individual, and as one, we fear that we may upset God by breaking our marriage he ordained to be our lifetime covenant. And all in all, we couples, our life should be God-centered relationship in its whole being.
I came across these lines from the Bible, Apostle Paul in his first letter to the church at Corinth; "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife" (1 Corinthians 7:10-16).
When couples separated, they can find their time to think, to cool off and analyze. During the separation, they can realize their responsibility for what has happened. Its like “let the dust settle”, and make time to make amends. In this period of separation, spouses can improve their problem-solving skills to counsel each other before moving back together. To much appreciate each other as a whole and to think of things that would make the marriage better the second time around.
Partners and couples should work on changing. We do not need to rush to divorce like it’s the only way we could resolve the problems that arises. This kind of separation does not promote to avoid each other; this is supposed to be the one that reduces the conflict and give each other some relief and space from arguments and pressures.
When couples separate, that does not mean both of them planned this. Especially those couples who has their children involved. They worry the impact their fighting would be to their children and thus agreed to separate instead of talking it over and make way to arranged it correctly. Couples who did separate in the spur of the moment didn’t think about counseling, what are their guidelines in seeing each other, or is there any timeline of separation.
Many believe that separation is one of the best way to save a marriage. If you are a real Christian, you should not embrace this principle. Because Christians are God-fearing individual, and as one, we fear that we may upset God by breaking our marriage he ordained to be our lifetime covenant. And all in all, we couples, our life should be God-centered relationship in its whole being.
I came across these lines from the Bible, Apostle Paul in his first letter to the church at Corinth; "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife" (1 Corinthians 7:10-16).
When couples separated, they can find their time to think, to cool off and analyze. During the separation, they can realize their responsibility for what has happened. Its like “let the dust settle”, and make time to make amends. In this period of separation, spouses can improve their problem-solving skills to counsel each other before moving back together. To much appreciate each other as a whole and to think of things that would make the marriage better the second time around.
Partners and couples should work on changing. We do not need to rush to divorce like it’s the only way we could resolve the problems that arises. This kind of separation does not promote to avoid each other; this is supposed to be the one that reduces the conflict and give each other some relief and space from arguments and pressures.
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